I have been following a very restrictive diet for the past
couple of weeks and have doing very well with it (at least sticking to foods
that are on the plan) during that time but there are things that tempt me. I find that I am especially vulnerable when I
am feeling anger.
My coach Dianna and I had talked for length about me not
eating the Pizza and Cake at my son’s birthday party this week. I strategized I would bring a healthy salad
for everyone and watermelon wedges to complement the cake for anyone who wanted
it. I would stick to water and focus on
the party itself. It seems easy but then
there are things that happen.
I’m just going to say it.
I was never comfortable not having cake at my son’s birthday party. My coach was telling me I wasn’t going to
have it. In the moment while the kids
were playing and I was picking up, keeping an eye on the picnic site, chatting
with a friend about how I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY wanted a slice of cake and I
was really feeling boxed in and restricted I decided to be defiant, I cut a
small slice of cake and in between bites, I thought about how good it felt to
be defiant. My plan was not to say
anything, swear the people around me to silence and just let it be my secret. As the day wore on I started feeling the
effects of the cake, fatigue and irritability, but I also felt guilt. It may be an act of defiance to eat the cake –
even though no one was forcing me to eat it or not eat it, but if I am to hold
myself accountable – I had no business trying to convince others not to tattle
on me, I am the one who will see the results of my actions or choosing not to
act. It wouldn’t really matter to anyone
else if I decided to eat the entire remainder of the cake (except maybe my son –
who is hoping to enjoy some left-overs).
So after a long nap, I logged the cake into MyFitness Pal.
Even after all of that I wanted another piece of cake so
after I ate some of my left over salad – I cut myself another slice. I decided at this point guilt is a useless emotion;
Dianna would probably be upset that I went back on my agreement with her not to
have cake, but I will have to deal with that eventually. I should have spoken
up and told her how I felt about not having any in the first place.
The cake was good, I focused on each bite. The thing I realized while focusing on it is
that I knew even before tasting it that it would be really good, and exactly what
the texture would be and exactly how it would taste. So if I had maintained my agreement, I wouldn’t
really have missed anything because I knew already what it would taste like. Nonetheless I quickly devoured the piece and
realized that it made me thirsty and left my mouth with a sticky feeling.
In the past I would have washed it down with a Diet Coke,
but instead I chose plain seltzer water to satisfy my need for bubbles. After nearly 4 weeks of foods which are low
on the glycemic index I couldn’t handle the thought of washing the cake down
with soda. I did decide to pair it with
my 85% dark chocolate though which cut the sweetness and was satisfying.
In truth though, I had been having a rough week when it came
to staying on the plan. I had been
denying myself my usual favorites and was feeling deprived. When I misunderstood the intent of an email
at work I decided to have a piece of raspberry danish that my boss had brought
in earlier in the week. (For what it is
worth the danish should have been stale but it wasn’t so it really begs the
question of what else was in it that wasn’t good for me).
I’ve been finding when I have anxiety; I go into a sugar
spiral. When I go into a sugar spiral it
leads to more anxiety, frustration and feeling that I am entitled to give in to
my sugar cravings. I am not always good
about sharing my feelings with others.
At work, all I needed to do was take a step back and really think about
the message that was being conveyed to me rather than reading into it something
that wasn’t there to begin with. With
family, I know their patterns and behaviors.
I do not have to allow family members to make me feel bad about
something because they feel bad about themselves.
A single cave in can lead to a total derailment. Today in the “hangover aftermath” of eating
the cake and the danish and giving in to a Diet Coke earlier in the week, I am
more difficulty than usual resisting the cake, but, I have also worked too hard
to lose my progress so far. I want to be
healthy and so I am moving forward. I’ve
made things a lot more difficult than necessary and I have to own that.
So far I have lost about 8 pounds.
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Before 5/3/15 228.4 lbs |
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Now 5/24/15 219.8 lbs |